Hi....I am at my wit's end, so I am on this website. I found it by accident. I am young, have a fairly good job, and am decent looking (I think). I am married to a guy 10 years older than me. When we first got together, he told me he had never been married and had no kids. Well, right before our wedding, he told me he had this daughter by a prostitute back in the day. I guess she's been extorting money from him all this time. (Side note: he has forbade me to have any children as he does not want them and finds women over 120 lbs "disgusting." I don't really want kids either). What also bugs me- his whole family LOVES this woman and her illegitamate child! Apparently, she convinced them that she was "saved" or some other religious mumbo-jumbo.

Anyways, I get so angry and so depressed because it feels like I am second best. His whole family refused to come to our wedding because they wanted him to marry her! He got together with her a long time ago- I was 9 years old when it took place, so obviously I did not break them up!

I just hate this woman (I'll try not to refer to her as "the *****"). Part of it is jealousy- they have a family together and we will never have it. Part is complete spite that she is extorting him. Another part of me can't seem to understand why his family embraces her and completely rejects me.

Is there ANYONE out there in this situation? I feel so lonely. I can't tell anyone I work with or any of my friends about this because he might lose his job. (He has sort of a high-ranking position, so I have to keep this anonymous).

Please talk to me if you can relate.