I wish I could see the real difficult red flags as they happen to me from men, versus in hindsight when the encounter or relationship is done, and I've had time to reflect on who he was and what went wrong.

That narcissist guy I posted about in my other thread is the most recent experience.

Here are some more red flags about him, that popped up today while I was driving:

1. When he got into my car, he asked about my radio b/c it wasn't the factory radio kind. So, I told him that I treated myself to a new radio with bells and whistles to it. zhe shamed me for buying it, and reminded me that I'd just spent a lot of money repairing my car, and reminded me that the money I spent repairing my car is more than the Kelley Blue Book value (I still owe money on my car). I felt shamed by him and wanted to defend myself, but I didn't. I wanted to explain my choices to him, but decided not to, b/c I didn't think he would even listen to me, or care.

2. When he was a FB friend (he isn't anymore), he would send me these inappropriate GIFS or MEMES and comment, "Is this CGI?" Pretty much all of the images or videos were just odd or inappropriate; like, he sent me one of a very thin teenage boy riding horseback on top of a really large guy who was crawling around on the ground, to the background of country music. That's just one example of the weird stuff this 57 year old guy would send me.

3. He would post a lot of tasteless puns on my FB wall in response to things I posted about. I would have to go back and delete them all b/c I felt like he did that to try to embarrass me. Whereas, on his other friends FB walls or his own, would be completely normal posts that show him in a different way. But on my FB wall, he's litter it with just weird and inappropriate puns.

4. The second time we met for lunch, he texted me he was going to be late. Then when he showed up, stood over me and screamed in my face that my text response was immature and that I should pay for his meal. Then he said he was kidding. My text response was, "Ok, I'm sitting over in this section of the restaurant" to his text "I'm running late." It freaked me out, the way he did that. We barely knew each other as that was our 2nd time meeting for lunch.

I think his comments shaming me about my choices with my car, being a red flag that I didn't respond to when I should have while he was still in the car, and his weird behavior at the restaurant, that I also didn't respond to while he was there, to tell him, that his behavior freaked me out and was not ok, really bothers me. I wish I had reacted appropriately with boundaries right as these red flags were happening.