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Old Apr 18, 2019, 05:50 AM
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Originally Posted by raging vortex View Post
a memory that keeps coming back to me:

one time my parents baught home a cheeseburger and some fries for me (while they had a hamburger)

they knew I didn't like cheese, and as I bit in to it, I started to feel really sick

I turned to my mom and said I don't think I can eat this burger

and she turned to me and went well, you'll have to starve then. their isn't anything else

maybe not the worst thing said to me, but it's pretty bad as I constantly remember it
You know it's not really so much the cheese burger but how it made you feel when your parents insisted you eat something you simply don't like to eat. It's lack or respect and not caring about your feelings and needs that this memory represents. It's the tone of how you tended to be treated in the bigger picture that can trigger what that felt like emotionally.