After the two year on/off relationship with one of my addict bfs, we were dating, but he was sporadic and distant in his pursuit of me. As for the dates, I never had a guy come and sit on my couch and get drunk. They all took me out of my house, somewhere.

I went on a cruise with my mom, her friend and daughter. It was a last minute thing and I never told him I was going.

When I returned, he had been calling me and his whole attitude changed when I had now become more unavailable to him. It was then he steadily pursued me. We dated for a solid few months. Then he dumped me by standing me up for a date and never calling me again.

I hate the games. My gut tells me that he is probably more attracted to you now because you are ‘hard to get’.

I support you stepping back, looking at the whole big picture for yourself, and not falling into any traps.