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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight
Just to clarify the first part, I didn't say that *H* wasn't fun anymore. I said I missed when we would be playful and silly together. I was putting myself in there, too. Like, it was something that both of us weren't doing. Not just him. I think I made that fairly clear to him, both at night and in the morning. And I was trying to say I felt like that change happened way before the cheating, wondering if it had to do with us being parents, etc. He was saying that the ex-MC relationship changed after the cheating, not so much our relationship.
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Gotcha. Still, maybe it would be helpful to view what he said more in the lens of he was trying to contribute to the conversation and talk about your relationship. I think that's something you've expressed wanting more of, so maybe instead of dwelling on the fact that you felt blindsided and hurt by what he brought up, you could take it as a positive that he was reflecting and sharing his perspective. Or, if not "instead of," maybe "in addition to?"