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Originally Posted by CepheidVariable
I don't know if this is the same, but I have grappled with forgiveness and even hate towards people who mistreated me. The worst was when I kept wondering if I was being unreasonable or was wrong in some way. Eventually I decided it didn't matter; The relationship was toxic to me and was never going to change. So I cut them off. I have not spoken to them in two decades and have no intention of ever doing so. They can live their life and I will not care or interfere. It's not forgiveness, but it's the best I can do.
That has helped.
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For me - its most everyone in my life or that I come in contact with.. some that I have known for years. I have not changed - so I don't understand it at all. Its not about self blame bc I dont see anything to blame myself for. I dont even feel anger toward anyone so I am not sure if forgiveness fits into this. Its more like confusion and not understanding why they are treating me like this nor how I am supposed to respond - or even how it is I want to respond.