As someone with a history of severe neglect, I found a lot of benefit in this approach though it was a very difficult way to do therapy.

If you feel insecure around the T, that is your sense of self. I'm not sure I would have changed, becoming more secure with myself if I am always depending on the other person to make me feel secure. I found it to be disempowering letting another person determine how I feel, and working through this insecurity in therapy allowed me to master it within myself. It's freeing that my emotional state is no longer dependent on other's words or behaviors for the most part.

I also think the connection is more genuine once you get through the transference, and it seems my T has been more reciprocal since the transference dissipated. I used to relate to him as an attachment figure, and wanted soothing and nurturing from him, which is not who he really was. Relating to him as the person he really is has led to a stronger, more genuine connection.