For me a blank slate wouldn't work. I need to feel connected with T in order to feel safe. I need to feel connected in order to open up and talk. If someone was a blank slate, I'd probably be very quiet and not say much and get no where in therapy. I like someone who is warm and compassionate. Current T: I don't know if she is those things but I do feel a connection to her. I'm not attached, I don't think, not like with Former T who it still feels like my heart was ripped out after we had to stop meeting. HUGS Kit