The thing is, naturally you're expecting a very controlling and abusive man to react reasonably to you. He will not. He is not a reasonable or rational person, therefore, he will not behave rationally or reasonsably. Don't question your own actions in any scenario with someone like him. Even if you made him dinner, cleaned up, made sure everything was tidy and nice and comfortable for him, brought and served him drinks and dessert in the living room while he has his feet up, he will find a way to be disrespectful and abusive and make you question, "what did I do wrong?" Please do leave this man, for your own sake.