I always describe my T as “blank slate-ish” and what I mean by that is he doesn’t self disclose much at all and isn’t particularly warm and fuzzy. I had a hard time with this for a long time, feeling frustrated and angry at feeling left alone with the feelings that came up during and in between sessions. I finally feel like I’m done with that phase. He once said his goal wasn’t to make me feel good which was a little confusing at first, but it’s something I really value now. What has worked for me is his incredible consistency and the fact that he’s been completely unphased by whatever I say to him (whether in person or via email). Right now he’s helping me value my own emotions and reactions and figure out how my experiences have shaped who I am.