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Originally Posted by CepheidVariable
I don't know if this is the same, but I have grappled with forgiveness and even hate towards people who mistreated me. The worst was when I kept wondering if I was being unreasonable or was wrong in some way. Eventually I decided it didn't matter; The relationship was toxic to me and was never going to change. So I cut them off. I have not spoken to them in two decades and have no intention of ever doing so. They can live their life and I will not care or interfere. It's not forgiveness, but it's the best I can do.
That has helped.
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Good post.. I can relate .....
Some relationships are toxic to us and are very unlikely to ever change. For a start, both parties would need to be open minded and to be able to negotiate differences.. or at least to speak with respect.. and then there are some people who simply won’t or can’t listen.. and come at us from their place of “toxicity”
It takes a lot for me to cut someone out of my life, but I do it when necessary
It maybe isn’t forgiveness if they can’t forgive us for being human
Hugs to all in this thread.