We cannot rely on another person to boost our self esteem. If you were looking to him to reverse the soul crushing things he said, or to help you to feel better about yourself, you’re knocking on the wrong door. Yes I would call your therapist and discuss your need to continue with a toxic relationship. It is not good for you, but you know this.

Also, know that you cannot fix or resolve HIS problems. That’s what codependents do.