Well, forgiveness is the cornerstone of my religion, so I try to do that anyway. As Sarahsweets said so well, it isn't about being a doormat, it's about taking away people's power to hurt you in the long run. How does that go in the 12 step programs? Change the things you can, and let go the things you can't?


That, and because all of us have hurt others in some fashion along the way, we need to be forgiven for that in the same way.