Hello SadTransference: I see this is your first post here on PC. So... welcome to Psych Central.
One additional forum, here on PC, that may be of interest to you would be the men-focused support forum. Here's a link:
https://forums.psychcentral.com/men-focused-support/
You mentioned you're an "older male". I don't know just how old you are, of course. I really
am an older male... (well, sort-of... it's a long story.) I'm 70!
And despite the fact I kicked around the mental health system for a good 15 years or so, before I finally left it all behind, I never did receive anything in the way of a diagnosis. I suppose there must be something written down somewhere for insurance purposes... probably depression. But it's not based on anything. I still sometimes wish I had received one. If nothing else, I'd know where to post here on PC.
I once read the book
Lost in the Mirror. And, based on what I read in that book, I thought it was possible I might have been diagnosable as having BPD when I was younger. That would probably not be the case any longer. But I've been told that BPD tends to burn itself out as a person ages. And I've certainly done that.
Family therapist, Kati Morton, has a video on her YouTube channel on what is referred to as the "quiet borderline". And I've thought that, were I able to be diagnosed as having BPD, it would be of that variety. Here's a link to that video:
YouTube
One psychiatrist I saw, suggested there might be a "bipolar element" to what was going on with me. And having read about bipolar 2, I can see where that might fit as well.
One thing you might do, here on PC, is to take some of the quizzes & tests that are on offer. Here's a link to the listing of quizzes & tests that are available:
Psychological Quizzes and Tests
And then here's a link to an article, from Psych Central's archives, by our host Dr. John Grohol, Psy.D. on the subject of BPD plus links to 6 additional articles on the subject of BPD in males as well as on BPD in general:
Borderline Personality Disorder: Symptoms & Treatments
Men Can Have Borderline Personality Disorder, Too
An Interesting Mix: Male Borderline Personality Disorder | The Exhausted Woman
https://blogs.psychcentral.com/careg...u-should-know/
https://psychcentral.com/disorders/b...ng-with/?all=1
https://psychcentral.com/lib/dialect...isorder/?all=1
https://psychcentral.com/blog/6-gift...lity-disorder/
I hope you find PC to be of benefit.
