I sometimes feel like that about his refusal to believe that I'm actually a bad worthless person, etc., but rationally I don't think he idealizes me.

The last T I saw long term definitely did, but that whole thing was a countertransference **** show. I didn't idealize her as in think she was perfect or better than other people, but I also didn't let myself acknowledge how unethical her conduct was and hold her responsible for that. Like she had good intentions and cared about me so I couldn't blame her. Even though it was her job to know better.