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Originally Posted by HD7970GHZ
I have never said ALL therapists are bad.
I have had excellent therapy prior to the negative experiences, but unfortunately people seem to think it has to be one or the other. I recommend reading more of my posts, not just the blatantly negative ones.
I haven't lost all faith in humanity, that includes therapists.
I still have unresolved complex ptsd that I want to heal. Should I give up?
I still attach because I yearn for a safe trusting connection. While trauma in therapy has damaged my attachment system even more - it has also exacerbated the intensity of my desire to find someone to trust.
Some therapists acknowledge the systemic abuses.
Some therapists are ethical.
Some therapists understand complex ptsd.
Some therapists know what clients need.
Thanks,
HD7970ghz
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To me, this perspective seems like a great way to cope, that you are in fact coping with the fear of trusting someone who may not deserve it. You recognize you can be hurt and you recognize you may be helped; neither one are a sure thing. It is a leap of faith to trust anyone. It is smart not to trust everyone. (this last point made in context, not as an absolute)
I'm not sure what might help you here, except the suggestion that you seem to be seeing this clearly. In my experience, it took some time to realize that mistakes and disagreements were not relationship killers. This has been true with my therapist, whether the mistake or disagreement began with me or with him. I don't trust easily or even completely, but it helped me to think about it as very specific to the thing I wanted to discuss-- can I take the leap of faith to trust in this moment or not?