My T also does the unconditional positive regard thing. I don’t think I would go as far as idealizing as be both have traits that would drive eachother out of our minds outside the office. However, I think he image of me is very skewed because of his bent towards unconditional positive regard. I have seen times where his intuition/instincts have gotten a glimpse of “real me” and shuttered before he could shut it off... I have spent a lot of time trying to figure out how to tell him I have a shadow side and I am well aware of it so it is “safe” to talk about it. Direct has not worked.