Alex,

I think Winnicott would agree with you!

And as we think about both Ts and parents, I think it is important to remember that everything that happens is cocreated - and mutually regulated. And there is a certain "type" of person that chooses psychology as a career - either really curious or really humanistic and an awful lot of us are "fixers and savers." Projection and introjection go both ways.

So when a therapist decides "this isn't in your best interest" - they also need to own that it likely isn't in theirs either - meaning it is outside their comfort zone or more about themselves sometimes. It is just so complicated and one-size will never fit all.

Life is ever changing and change is always hard. And life changes for Ts as much or as often as it changes for clients. I think it is easier and perhaps slightly less painful if everyone acknowledges this, discusses it and approaches decisions as a team. Then the power is somewhat balanced.