Boy....communication between couples can be so difficult! Especially when seemingly on different pages and thought processes.

I saw in another thread that you are seeing a therapist and that she has refused to go with you. I'm glad you at least have a place to go and speak, be heard, validated and work on your understanding and issues. Sometimes that is all we can do eh? Work on ourselves and our own understanding....in that way we can then make more informed decisions as to how we want to proceed in our lives.

You obviously cannot control her and what she is thinking and feeling. You cannot make her talk if she is unwilling. I'm kind of going through the same issue in that my soon to be ex is not communicating with me. It's damned hard to go through with so many questions that I feel I need and deserve answers to not coming from him. I would imagine you are feeling the same way.

At this point, I think to continue with your therapist, continue with YOUR work and either she will fall in line at some point and "see" what you are trying to show her or you will find that things are not going to fall in line. Then, you will be at a point of making a decision about YOUR life....as you have every right to do.

I'm sorry if I wasn't too helpful to you here. It's a difficult situation and you have to do what is best for you. You have to feel in your heart that you have tried everything you know to make the relationship work. You have to decide what behaviors you are willing to deal with/ignore/whatever and which ones you cannot or will not live with.

I wish you well!


sabby