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Originally Posted by Fuzzybear
Do you have trust issues?
What if anything has helped with this?
Do you find your gut instinct about others often proves to be “correct”
How long does it take you to make a judgment about others?
Are you open to changing your mind about others?
Do you categorise others? If so why? (For example “all good” - worthwhile or “not good enough” - not “worthwhile” )
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Not sure if you would say I have trust issues or not.
I used to openly trust - until they proved I should not.
Now .. I do a step by step thing. I allow them a little info and see how well I can trust tyem with that. If that proves good, I give a little info a tad more private. And so on. But never totally - except for my spouse bc he needs to know me inside and out so we understand each other.
That was just something I learned I had to do. I still hate myself for doing that (not being openly honest about everything with everyone).
I try to never judge anyone on face value - so I don't really have gut instincts. I do recognize a different type of knowledge when meeting someone for first time at times - but it is not allowed to be spoke of per forum rules, so I will leave it at that.
I do categorize - but only after they have had ample time to demonstrate their character to me. I do this in order to keep myelf healthy. I never label though. I simply put them into categories pertaining to how much trust I can allow them and how much and what type of contact is healthy for me to have with them.