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Originally Posted by Crypts_Of_The_Mind
I actually have come to the decision a long time ago that there is no "normal" .. everyone is messed up in some way - its those among us that can't admit it that are the worst. I can't volunteer - it makes me worse emotionally speaking. Too much stress.
It is nice to have others like us in our lives - but be careful. I did that, and wound up in an abusive relationship. We got it worked out now - but it took many years, and a divorce .. and remarriage. Speaking of misdiagnosis - bipolar and borderline personality disorder are often confused for one another and thus misdiagnosed as one anothrr (i was diagnosed back n forth for 15yrs.. they finally settled on borderline personality disorder). I do agree we need to accept who we are - but our labels (diagnosis) can be hard to accept bc they are not "who we are" they are just "part of us". I too would like someone offline that I can talk to. I have a husband, but he doesnt like to talk about things regarding emotions. That's what has me so upset.
I hope you will find someone to talk to soon. &hugs*
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For several years I was just Joe and refused to be labeled. I've never liked to be labeled because even within that label we have our own specific characteristics. Theres similarities of course but we're still different to some extent. With a world of stereotypes once you have a label they'll see you as the worse type they've heard of even if it's completely false. Society thinks if you have a mental disorder then you can't have any kind of job other than entry level. There's normal people that work in entry level positions as well as executive positions. Same goes for bipolar people.
Anyways I just got off the phone with a friend that I've been texting for the last 2 weeks. Our personalities are very similar with one another making our conversation enjoyable. It's been awhile since I've had a voice conversation vs typed conversations other than work of course. And it'll be strictly just friends only and hopefully it will be very long lasting relationship. Nothing beats true friends that's almost like family. I think we all need those friends in our life. Even being married you just need a friend because it's exhausting to always go to just your wife/husband for everything under the sun. Its great to have a different view on something when you already know what your spouse will say. Or in your case your husband doesnt want to talk about it. And I can totally understand your frustration. My wife isn't bipolar so she doesn't understand or have anything she can say about it. She just looks at me with pity. :/
I hope you find a friend that actually understands and cares about you. If you come to San Diego let me know and we all can do lunch, I know like all the best restaurants.
