Your post has the best title.

I wonder if the dating app culture is more about hookups than long term relationships at this point. It's possible that other people out there looking for long term relationships are not using those dating tools because they just got burnt out, the same way you're feeling. I wonder if something like Meetup would be a better way to meet people? Or what if you *did* say that you are dating in order to find a long term relationship to weed out people who only want a hookup? You'd only be scaring off people who don't have the same long term goals.