Brian, I don't know what to say...part of me believed they needed T 24/7 as I said in my original post and now the adult part of me knows why that child part felt that way...so the feeling was real....

Pernal its not a matter of ranking systems now, as T said, she is genuine in all her relationships..it was me that thought in "ranking" systems....but I see what T was meaning now....as long as we are genuine in the moment with any one person then they/we are coming first...what a fundamental discovery that is...my child part was the one doing the thinking...