I'm so sorry you're hurting so much, SorryShaped! It can certainly be very difficult when you realize that you don't truly love your partner. I completely agree with what TishaBuy has already wisely said better than I ever could! I'd suggest you to listen to her as much as you can if you want to! She always gives such GREAT advice to everyone like in this case! I completely agree with what TishaBuy has already wisely said about being gentel but honest. Unfortunately I'm afraid there's no other way to do that. The truth can be very hard sometimes but I think it's the best thing to do for yourself and your family if you feel like this. Your kids may be disappointed at first, but I'm sure they'll understand when they grow older and that they'll understand that you're doing this for them as well! You're NOT a cruel or "wrong" person! I understand why you may not want to hurt them, but think of what the alternative may be. What would happen if they found out later? They may feel even more hurt than they would if you DID tell the truth right now. i understand it's not an easy decision to make. Take your time, but please DO consider it! Just remember to take all the time you need! Just remember to take things one step at the time! Just remember to take baby steps! Just remember to do ALL of this and I'm SURE you'll find the courage and strength to tell the truth to your kids and your wife and that you'll understand whatis the best thing that you can do for yourself and your family! It WON'T be easy. It WILL take time. But it CAN be done! Remember that we're here for you if you need it! Feel free to PM me anytime! Let us know if there's anything, ANYTHING AT ALL that we can do to help YOU! Just mention it and we'll try to do our best to help YOU! I PROMISE YOU THAT! PLEASE REMEMBER THAT! WISH YOU GOOD LUCK! Let us know how it goes! I'm so sorry you're going through all of this! It's certainly not easy! You don't deserve to suffer AT ALL! Nobody deserves to suffer AT ALL, certainly not such a caring, genterous, gentle, kind, sweet, wise and wonderful person like YOU ARE! I'm so sorry you have to deal with ALL OF THIS, SorryShaped!