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Originally Posted by CartDown
It bothers me a bit. I'm just confused as to why he asked "do you want to be this?" Why would I want that? Is he thinking I want to be miserable? It really only started bothering me after the session and now I feel like he was scolding me in someway because he may think my problems are less significant. Like "kid, you don't even know". But if that's the case, I would at least think he would say "no."
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I think you're stuck on the words rather than the bigger picture. Ask your T why he responded in this way and get clarity. I spend way too much time dissecting what my T says, how she says it, and come up with a dozen negative thoughts over things. In the end, none of it ends up being conclusions based on any facts. It's my own insecurities being projected and me allowing them to overpower simple, reality based thought.
It would seem important for your T too want to understand all the thoughts you share. Maybe he just didn't use the perfect words to try and gain that understanding. Clear it up by telling him how his questions made you feel, and allow him to clarify his intent for you.