I'm so sorry you and everyone else on this thread are going/have been through all of this, hvert! It is certainly a VERY strange behavior and I'd say definitely a very toxic one as well. I completely agree with what TishaBuy has already wisely said better than I ever could! I'd suggest to talk to her about this and see how it goes from there! Maybe that could help! Make her understand that she isn't behaving in an appropriate way! Hopefully she'll listen to what you have to say and understand what you mean and perhaps try to change her behavior! Be kind and gentle but also honest and firm! If she denies her behavior or doesn't listen to you or refuses to change her behavior then I'd suggest to just keep doing what you're already doing and avoid giving gifts to each other when your mother is around! Unfortunately I'm afraid there aren't many other options, hvert! It must be very annoying and very hard to put with your mother when she behaves like this and with anyone else that behaves like this! I'm so sorry you're ALL going through ALL OF THIS! Remember that we're here for you if you need it! Feel free to PM me anytime! Let us know if there's ANYTHING AT ALL that we can do to help you! Just let us know and mention it and we'll try to do OUR BEST to HELP YOU OUT! I PROMISE YOU THAT! You're a STRONG, WONDERFUL PERSON! PLEASE REMEMBER THAT! WISH YOU GOOD LUCK! Let us know how it goes! I'm so sorry you and everyone else have to deal with all of this, hvert! Sending many hugs to you, hvert, and of course to all of the wonderful people here on PC!