When I got home from my tdoc's and an errand, I found a message on my home answering machine from my sister. I called her back and she said that my father was so severely ill early this morning from extreme drinking that he asked my brother to take him to the hospital. My brother took him to the ER and just left him there and went to work. My siblings and I have spent way too many hours in vain in ERs this past year trying to get my dad help. I told my sister to tell my brother that I agreed with what he did this morning, leaving my dad there.

We don't know where my dad is right now. Both my sister and I refuse to call my dad. Doing so would only make us frantic or yell at him ballistically. My brother will eventually find out if our dad is home or elsewhere. My sister and I are guessing he called his girlfriend or some other friend and they picked him up. We don't know that for sure, though.

If my father continues on this path much longer, he will either die or kill someone via drinking and driving. My sister and I already discussed post death plans for him. Even though our father is an extremely popular person in our town, we don't plan to give him a service or funeral. We just don't think we could bear seeing all of his enabling alcoholic and blood sucking "friends". Our plan is to only have a family get together with our uncles and other close family. Any announcement will include a request to donate to our state's association on mental health and addictions.