Did you partner made an effort to satisfy you? Perhaps the fact that it didn’t happen or you had to do it yourself was due to him either not trying or just not doing it right. I’ve been with men who weren’t able to satisfy me regardless what method they used but I can’t complain about my husband, especially in certain areas. So it’s not me, it’s them.

I really doubt there are women whose response is immediate and guaranteed. It’s much more complex than that. I suspect there is no sexual disadvantage in your case. Sounds pretty typical for a woman. I think the issue is that you’ve been with somewhat indifferent partner and you now think all relationships are terrible, it’s not the case.

It can’t be that everyone is coupled up. You are my daughters age. Many of her friends are single.