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'm fairly sure I shift more what I allow him to give me than he allows me to ask for.

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We haven't shifted much at all and I am allowed to ask for anything. There are no boundaries surrounding what I am allowed to say or ask for. Of course, he is also allowed to respond as he wishes.

In the phone call issue, T was helping me understand that what I was asking for (sometimes) was a phone session. I was not aware of that as a possibility. And he DID express that his comfort level with calls changed. His timing sucked though.