Thats an awfully big lie that he told you, and you have the right to be angry about that.

Someone else mentioned his familys feelings for this woman, and unfortunatley, we cant make people dislike others because we do. I would feel the same way as you though, and them not going to your wedding was a mean and spiteful thing.

As far as the woman extorting money from him...could you perhaps look at this a little differently? The child is not to be faulted in this...and as he admits to being her father...then he needs to man up and pay for her.

My husband has a child with a woman he never married, and he has paid for her...and contines to pay. She is 21 now, and in university. He can stop paying this December when she turns 22, but I know that he will continue to offer her support while she is in university.

Its frustrating I know...but I wouldnt have as much respect for my hubby if he did not meet his obligations.

Good luck my dear friend.