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Originally Posted by divine1966
Did you partner made an effort to satisfy you? Perhaps the fact that it didn’t happen or you had to do it yourself was due to him either not trying or just not doing it right. I’ve been with men who weren’t able to satisfy me regardless what method they used but I can’t complain about my husband, especially in certain areas. So it’s not me, it’s them.
I really doubt there are women whose response is immediate and guaranteed. It’s much more complex than that. I suspect there is no sexual disadvantage in your case. Sounds pretty typical for a woman. I think the issue is that you’ve been with somewhat indifferent partner and you now think all relationships are terrible, it’s not the case.
It can’t be that everyone is coupled up. You are my daughters age. Many of her friends are single.
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I honestly don't know if he made enough effort to satisfy me or not. He wasn't really willing to do much that I would want. I didn't bother asking for much anyway because I didn't want to be further shamed.
I guess if not everyone is coupled up, then I have a bunch of friends that just want me to not date again.
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Originally Posted by TishaBuv
You touched on several things here that so understandably contribute to your feelings. The loss of your brother and then your birth is a huge factor.
I’ve found that attitude takes precedence to looks in attracting relationships. You need to have confidence and like people and they will mostly like you back. That’s just the first step. Then becomes compatibility that makes or breaks it.
Was this guy more than ten years younger? My mom’s friend married a man 25 years younger and they were very happy. Anything is possible.
There’s lots of teaching your partner what you like in bed. They can learn and satisfy you.
I’m sorry you have so much you are dealing with. I do understand.
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How would I teach someone? I haven't experienced much that I like. Almost nothing I do by myself would translate...it would not be possible with another person. Unless I'm using a toy, I can't get myself off unless I'm flat on my stomach. It was only through a lot of training that I could get any response even with a vibrator in another position. That and I don't want someone to tell me what I like or would think I like is gross or wrong, so no I don't usually want to talk about it.
Virtually all the people I'm around like me. No one is attracted to me in that way, that's the issue. I have to feel safe in the environment to really be myself so I guess I'm not a huge presence in every space, but virtually everyone who has really gotten to know me really likes me.