Curious, receptive and accepting of me and/or my anger.

No, as hate is a strong word and I do not feel thus. I did not even hate my T from hell.

No. I am not one for yelling or screaming and most certainly would not appreciate, nor tolerate, a T behaving this way towards me either.

Again, accusation is a strong, rather inflammatory, word. I have not accused T but have told them that what they said was hurtful. This led to a fruitful discussion.

I believe in respectful communication from both parties. I don't condone screaming matches or disrespect. There is a way to convey information - both from T to me and vice versa - that is both respectful and kind. This is what is most effective for me.