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Originally Posted by Medusax
Ok. I am going to give my honest opinion here. I KNOW that you of the younger generation basically live online, and I realize that perhaps online dating is a quicker way to meet people, and also it broadens your "field" a bit. However... I grew up with no such things. We all did. We all met people and dated. You dated people you knew or met through people who knew them, and could tell you about them, at least basically. Online, you can basically be anyone, and sell anyone on anything. I know a guy around here who brags online to be a big cowboy, that has used a Youtube video, saying that it is HIM riding a bull. My attitude about online dating is, if you have to use it, there is something wrong with you. You have exhausted your opportunities locally and need to reach for those who don't know you or know anything about you. Just my opinion.
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I feel like this is really unkind. Technology is here-like it or not. The world has changed. I too met my husband the old fashioned way and it was love at first sight and we are married 23 years. If I hadnt met him and was still single I guarantee I would have used online dating. It may not be perfect and sure people can lie but so can people in real life. (ever seen Dirty John?) I think it can be a way to cut through some of the pick-up BS at bars- and for someone like me who cant drink- I wouldnt be at a bar anyway. Some people do not want to complicate their work lives by dating coworkers which is understandable. My mom met someone who was very much in love with her through eharmony. It didnt work out because she just wasnt feeling it but it worked while it did. I think that its natural for humans to want the love and comfort of another human and if online dating helps mitigate that then its a good thing. The other thing I thought of.... I am not gay and not an expert but nearly all of my gay friends have met their partners with online dating. They all tried the conventional way with bars and hobbies but they couldnt seem to find the right person. With online dating they have told me that they were able to find people that had common goals. In fact my BFF is getting married to his partner in July and he thought he would be single forever.
You are right that online dating isnt for everyone but its really really unkind to say that something is wrong with someone because they use it.
EDITED TO ADD: I wanted to say that there is also nothing wrong with doing the real life meet-ups. I am 44 and met my husband that way. I do not think there is a right or wrong way about meeting people and its very much influenced by your experiences. I do not know if my mom (who is 66) will use online dating again because she was a bit hurt after the last guy and like Blanche said it was the worst 5 years of her life and I just want to validate that. My main issue was saying that there was something wrong with a person for using online dating.