It's super rude and totally inappropriate. Has happened to me three times with three men I dated.

Guy #1: l I dated for a year. We were out to dinner on a snowy winter evening when he saw a blonde woman he had dated. Without asking me or giving me any notice, he left our table, walked over to her, hugged her, and spoke to her for about 15 minutes. I would have left the restaurant and dumped him but he'd driven. He did it to me again, at a bar. This time, he abandoned me at our table and didn't return. About 40 minutes later, the bar tender left the bar, walked over to me, and said, "would you like me to call you a cab?" He saw that I was crying, so I nodded "yes" and shortly after his call a cab came and picked me up. Guy #1 never called or texted me to explain his behavior both times, and I didn't have the self esteem to confront him about hold him accountable for his behavior back then. Note: He dumped me while I was recovering from a bad car accident in the hospital. A man who dumps a woman while she's in the hospital...is not a good man.

Guy #2: I met through online dating. On NYE, while at a dinner table with a married couple I know, he kept texting w/his female coworker. He'd get up from our table, walk away, and call her or text her. He did this to me at my cousin's wedding too, at the wedding reception where he'd disappeared for about 30 minutes. When I later confronted him at night about this woman, his response was "well, you need to leave now b/c I don't want to be with you anymore." And that was his way of dumping me.

Guy #3: Last month. The narcissist I posted about in a few other threads here. His 6 year girlfriend dumped him b/c he was always on his phone, and they had a long distant relationship with each other using Apple Facetime. I met him on FB through a mutual group about a few months ago and we met in person a month ago. The entire time we were talking at a coffee shop -- he was on his cellphone. Then, at a music venue, sitting down at the venue, he was again --- on his phone. Needless to say, he was a narcissist in sheep's clothing.

I can't advise you what to do gothicpear, I can only share my similar experiences.

You can't let things like that "slide." Those are deal breaker behaviors in my opinion.

And you can't be afraid to deal with conflict in your relationships. Conflict is par for the course. It helps you and your partner learn about each other and help you each decide if you are compatible or not.

To expect to be with someone and never argue or disagree, never address each other's habits or bad choices, or communicate how you feel when you feel it, is not realistic.

You can't be afraid to set limits. You can't be afraid to tell the truth. Because communication is necessary for a relationship to be healthy, to be strong. My grandparents were married from age 17 to the day they died which was more than 70 years. They stayed together b/c they respected each other, even when they didn't like each other sometimes.