I also think there is an element of the anxiety related to him--I'm not referring specifically to you here, but I know my T isn't overly popular on this forum (yes, he has his fans!), so I think at times I sort of think, "Maybe he is the jerk that people think he is" so it's hard for me to reconcile that with, "My mental health is more important to him than the exact number on his paycheck." (And yeah, that comes down to my working on trusting my own opinions/feelings first and putting those of others through the "LT filter.")