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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight
I really hate paternal transference. Even when I'm fully aware of what's going on and what the feelings are about. Still doesn't make it easier. Maybe even makes it harder because I know they can't be resolved through this, that it's stuff from the past that I can never go back to and fix. That developmental window, it's gone. But the twinges of things that I could have had then...it hurts.
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I think it's
because it's developmental that it can be resolved. But I don't think it can happen with this T because it's just not how he works, and he doesn't have those skills.
It's not about fixing the past--you're right, that time has gone--it's about fixing your relationship to yourself as you experience your past in the present.