What do you do when people make comments, criticism or give advice that you really don’t appreciate?
This used to happen to me a lot. I now limit how much information I share with people and I’m very careful what I say. But still, now and then the unwanted comments come and it triggers me.
I’ve tried to think through my own words and actions to determine if perhaps I have said something to offend someone else. Maybe I inadvertently triggered somebody else and that’s where the comments or advice is coming from... but I can only analyze my own behaviors and intentions so much. I can only censor what I share with others so much.
I used to let resentment build when people criticized or gave advice I didn’t ask for. Now I just very kindly distance myself from the person and share absolutely nothing with them going forward.
Am I cutting off friendships and relationships too much by doing this? What’s the alternative? I want to just live my life without feeling judged or criticized. This is what we all want... I’m curious how do you handle this issue?
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