Here is the unwanted advice and criticism I’m getting: my H and I haven’t taken a vacation in several years... for various reasons... my H has some health issues that making traveling a little bit of a challenge... so we are trying to save money. We are concerned about financial stability. Hopefully he can retire early. We also have some aging pets we don’t want to leave with a pet sitter or at a boarding facility. So we have put vacations on hold for now. For these reasons.

Why do people keep asking me why we haven’t taken a vacation together in so long? Why do they persist to the point of giving me advice about boarding my pets? They ask me why over and over. It makes me mad. I shouldn’t have to explain myself. My H’s health issues are nobody’s business. Neither are our financial concerns or the concerns for our aging pets anybody’s business. It really annoys me to no end when people persist in convincing me we must take a vacation right away.

After thinking about what you all have said here... I think the trigger is largely because I am feeling sensitive. If I’m being honest with myself, I don’t take criticism well. I can take a lot of joking and teasing, but not direct criticism and unwarranted advice. BUT. Whether I take a vacation or however else I choose to live my life is nobody’s business...

My H tells me to just ignore those comments. Just don’t worry about it and let it go. He says we have to make the choices that are best for us and not be influenced or annoyed by what other people say.