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Originally Posted by gothicpear
Oh friends...this has been so helpful!
He did mention wanting to go to this place, where we had NEVER been before, to hear a band he had no clue about. When I went back through Facebook and checked the "event," sure enough, she had clicked "going" to this event. So it is very possible he had seen that she was going, then suggested to me that we should go, and then oopsie! Met up with her there for the very first time, after clicking like after like after like on her pictures.
That's a lot of plotting and scheming on his part, but that very well could be what happened...then he saw her and went right over and introduced himself, with me there as his cover chick.
I don't know...does this sound like something a man would do? It's sure sounding suspicious, now that I looked back at the Facebook event. What great detectives you are!
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Even the detectives on the crime tv show Law & Order will agree with me here -- sounds like he DID scheme and plot to meetup with this woman, using you as his 'cover chick.' Dump the rat bastard. Stat.
Men are capable of this kind of shenanigans and MUCH WORSE. I'm nearly 50 and have been through a few nasty scenarios. If a guy's a bad character, then whatever woman he's with, is going to be his victim either consciously or subconsciously. That's how women get duped into staying in abusive relationships, fyi.
I'd dump him. But that's just me. I have no time for games. If he wants to date this Facebook friend, let him. She can deal with his stupid reindeer games.
It's just one year of your life. Could be worse -- if you stay with him. If you do, don't second guess your intuition if he pulls stunts like this again and again.
Just arm yourself with some serious boundaries and self-esteem when you confront him; be prepared for his verbal judo: of
countering (I could say the same thing about you with your male Facebook friend so-and-so),
minimalizing your feelings (you're overreacting, being insecure, being dramatic),
deflecting (you're reading too much into this),
shaming you (you don't love me, you don't trust me)
and last but not least,
gas-lighting you (you're crazy, you're paranoid, you're insecure).
Good luck.