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Originally Posted by SilverTrees
I don't think you should just ignore the comments. It's clearly not working for you...you're feeling judged and your boundaries aren't being respected. That warrants a response.
For what it's worth, it does not seem weird at all to me that you don't take vacations and I agree that you do not need to justify your choices.
Looking at PC posts alone, boundary violation seems like a frequent cause of strife among humans. We are a mucky bunch, aren't we?  |
Well I like SilverTrees response in regards to people in our life who are family and friends (and won't cause a scene when we assert boundaries
). The friends and family who understand and try to respect our wishes are worth their weight in gold!
Figuring out proper boundaries has been a big issue for me. I sometimes don't even realize when mine have been violated and because of this, I have been a bad example for my children. My T and children have been teaching me and I might not have ever figured it out without them.
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Originally Posted by StreetcarBlanche
I like your husband's advice.
If you tell them, "stop bringing that up b/c it annoys me!" they won't understand (these types have no filter AND terrible boundaries).
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I agree with StreetcareBlanche in regards to acquaintances. Some people don't listen very well and will think terrible things that are not really what you said. It is just not worth it if they can be easily ignored.