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Originally Posted by Nowinners
Well I like SilverTrees response in regards to people in our life who are family and friends (and won't cause a scene when we assert boundaries  ). The friends and family who understand and try to respect our wishes are worth their weight in gold!
Figuring out proper boundaries has been a big issue for me. I sometimes don't even realize when mine have been violated and because of this, I have been a bad example for my children. My T and children have been teaching me and I might not have ever figured it out without them. 
I agree with StreetcareBlanche in regards to acquaintances. Some people don't listen very well and will think terrible things that are not really what you said. It is just not worth it if they can be easily ignored. |
While I understand your thought process, I do not believe that setting boundaries should be reserved for family and close friends. We have to respect and set boundaries with everyone we meet...busdriver....sales associate...neighbor...colleague etc.
Avoiding setting boundaries with some people out of fear that they may react negatively is problematic. "Some people don't listen very well and will think terrible things that are not really what you said." We cannot control others' thoughts or feelings....we can however draw a line when we are weary of it being overstepped. And phrasing makes a difference. I did not suggest telling someone that they are annoying you. "I am weary of this topic though I appreciate you were trying to be helpful" sends a different message. And then you move on. I don't think people fall into two groups: listeners and non-listeners. i think there are all sorts of reasons why people may overstep (on one occasion) and most (not all) will respect a friendly cue. i know I would.
I am not trying to argue btw. I respect all viewpoints. Just sharing my thoughts.
