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Originally Posted by StreetcarBlanche
It's good that you recognize these two issues you have with your self esteem.
While it's easy to advise you to "just be yourself," if you don't like who you are, that can be difficult to do. I've been there, where I didn't value myself enough and had terrible relationship and dating experiences, because the guys I was with sensed I didn't have high self esteem so they really treated me badly.
The first thing you need to decide is, how are you going to address these insecurities that you have about yourself? You may not need therapy as much as you need to decide what is it that you can do, to become more comfortable with yourself, more accepting of yourself?
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I feel like these guys are so successful, beautiful and disciplined and I just don't feel like I can compete.
I just don't think I'm at the same level as they are. They have these cool jobs, live in these chic downtown apartments, have greek-god bodies, bikeride to work everyday, and live these amazing lives, and I don't feel like I measure up. I obviously get that they worked hard for these things, and that's what I'm trying to do now. I work out as often as I can, I'm studying hard to get my degree, and do as many hours as possible at work, all to try and get to that level. For the time being though, I don't think i'm ready to join the race. Having someone to run alongside me in that race would be a dream come true, but it seems like everybody is already ahead.