My second therapist was a minister in my church and a licensed pastoral counselor. Oddly enough, I don't think I ever discussed matters of faith with him during sessions . . . not even once. It was probably because he and I are both life-long Lutherans (and members of families that have been Lutheran for generations -- probably centuries actually), so there was a natural understanding between us about our faith so discussion wasn't really necessary. At the time I was active in the church where he was one of the pastors, and my faith life was not an issue.
My last therapist was actually the one I discussed faith matters with the most, and he, while Christian, is not particularly active in his faith. I don't think he is a member of a congregation or attends church with any regularity. However, he was working with me during a terribly low time in my life where I had disconnected myself from my church life. It became apparent that had left a hole in my life and I was very much grieving that loss (and some other major losses in my life), and we started discussing that hole. It was with his encouragement that I eventually found the courage to return to my active life in my church, allowing me to reconnect with a support system that I had isolated myself from.
I would not have been comfortable AT ALL with what your therapist did, but that is because that kind of praying over people is unusual in Lutheran tradition; it tends to be saved for times of severe illness, etc. (Lutherans are rather private in our prayer life generally except for communal, liturgical prayer during services, before meals, etc.) I probably would have never returned to a therapist that did that. I could have been fine if it was a Lutheran minister who understood my faith beliefs, but I would have found it threatening if it came, for instance, from a very fundamentalist minister. It would have seemed presumptuous and aggressive to me.
But if you were comfortable and felt right about it, that is good. I find it interesting that you would feel uncomfortable talking to your therapist, who is a priest in your faith, about your faith. For me, I would be most comfortable discussing my faith with a Lutheran minister because we wouldn't be speaking from different places of doctrine. I had those kinds of discussions with my Lutheran therapist/minister, but, now that I think about it, those discussions occurred as parts of small groups generally, never as part of my therapy (again, it just wasn't a topic of issue within my therapy at the time).
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