JadedEmpath, just use the internet for articles on codependency. Also, schedule a session with a therapist who practices cognitive therapy. If you have those traits, sorry but your family of origin created you to have those traits. People aren't born codependent, they're made that way by their family members dysfunctional traits. These could be with communication, socialization, how they reward/punish you for behavior, how they use shame, praise, etc.,. and how the family system is set up.

Dysfunctional Family Defined (31 Patterns And How To Deal With Them)

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Defining the Traits of Dysfunctional Families | King University Online

8 Common Characteristics of a Dysfunctional Family - Psych2Go