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Originally Posted by StreetcarBlanche
Having experienced online dating for five years, using eHarmony, Match, OkCupid, and *gasp* Plenty of Fish, those were five miserable years. I met every type of "Mr. Wrong" there is, while online dating: the over-50-bachelor, the-online-guy (he just wants to email and text but never wants to commit to plans offline with you), the pathological liar guy (his photos are either fake or really old, and he lies about everything written in his profile), the come-on-strong-fast-and-fade-quickly guy (why buy the cow when you get the milk for free, applies here), the narcissist guy, the verbal abusive guy, the physical abusive guy, the unemployed guy, the alcoholic guy, the druggie guy. .
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Ahhh flashbacks... triggered
I feel like at one time online dating had reasonable people on it. I know a few people who met husbands on there - like 1997 - But I feel like at some point people figured out all the potential for abuse and online is now used that way. It is too bad.
I feel like this is the great tragedy for my generation... if you didn't find your mate when you were young, you are out of luck as there has been a temporary shift in figuring out how to find your mate. Or even the appropriate or helpful roles for males and females in a relationship. I feel like this is leading to separating people ( e.g., incels) almost needlessly.
Many guys I know complain they go on line and never get a response and become discouraged - taking it as a rejection. But to me that is just an obvious issue with the service not getting rid of old profiles as it makes it seem like they have plenty of people to choose from.
I know so many great women out there, accomplished, thin, generous, witty, and they are all alone. Most have given up trying to find a guy. Personally I am starting to think there is just a lack of good men out there. Online seems to flourish because it allows bad men to indulge in their selfish desires. But the chance of finding a good guy on there is very low.
I wonder if it always has been this way, a certain percentage of men even back in the 50s who were "dogs" but kept their behavior hidden because it wasn't socially acceptable / they had to marry to get any. Is it made even worse by having so many people around? Recently I saw a movie with an epic love story. But the thing was that both lived their lives on an island. Well of course you can be epically in love with someone else if they are the only other person around. Many of the literature stories I see from like the 1800s or something, you can see how few people are even available to a main character.
I have given up.