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Originally Posted by StreetcarBlanche
Everything in your post bolded, I 100% agree with. I think my window for finding a man was before the internet came into existence just after I graduated college in the very early 1990s. But I never met "the one" in college like many love stories talk about, with married couples who've known each other a long time. .
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I didn't even try in college because I presumed I would have my entire life. But I was so wrong.
I now work with some millennials. They are accomplished, rich, thin, good looking and they are already complaining about not being able to find a guy. Makes me feel a little better. I have advised them not to go on online dating but they are having a tough time finding alternatives. Most of them spent their college and post college years getting degrees.
I think about 1/3rd of the population of men are taken early with marriage; 1/3rd are hiding out in some way or just not in the dating game and 1/3rd are "dogs" that are about their pleasure for the moment. In past years they had to get married to get what they wanted. But they don't anymore and the online dating world insures they have an abundant way to meet marks for as long as they wish.
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I feel like these guys are so successful, beautiful and disciplined and I just don't feel like I can compete.
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I think honestly most men want to be in the driver's seat. They want women to be dependent on them or to "need" them in some way. Once you get equal to them, they don't really want you because you can drop them anytime. When they tell a bull story you will be there to say "that isn't true". They want to give you advice and have you lap it up. When you don't need their advice, guidance or anything else is when you become less attractive to them.