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Originally Posted by eskielover
actually I was the totally LOGICAL female (not many of us around) but my problem was that I didn't have the words to express my emotions. My T asked me how I was feeling at ine point & all I had the word to say was "UGH, JUST UGH" She brought out a sheet of emotions/feeking words (10 pages to be exact) My job was to write down each word I was actually feeling. I came up with 2 pages of words THEN I discussed WHY I was feeling each word. That was when I was finally able to connect words with my feelings. Yes, my logical mind is still dominant & I can better control my emotions but at least now I have the words & understanding to take my emotions into consideration when making decisions. Doing the opposite is JUST as possible even if there is a dominant thinking to totally IGNORE the existance of the other is unwise. One can chose to ignore the other area of their brain. That is their choice but learning to accessing both is entirely possible.
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Hey. I only see your response now, sorry. Tbh I think "logical females" are not that rare.
Apparently you had alexithymia (literal meaning of the word: inability to name feelings) but not a too severe version of it, if all you needed was use that sheet of emotion words and discuss each word. I'm glad it worked for you. My alexithymia is hardly responsive to that simple technique, because my thinking is too externally focused. I did not ever make the choice to ignore emotions per se, it's just how my brain works. I did learn to focus more on emotions but it's just never going to be entirely natural for me. :shrug