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Originally Posted by StreetcarBlanche
What is the fake sob story that your cousin tells, that you know for a fact isn't true? If you don't mind me asking?
There is no way to tell if someone's story is legitimate at face value. You have to know certain facts about the subject they're speaking of, to discern whether or not they're telling you the truth.
For example: if someone told me they just bought a new car, after filing chapter 7 bankruptcy, I would know they are lying, b/c car dealerships will not sell a new car to someone who just filed chapter 7, b/c that lowers your credit score and no bank lender wants to lend someone money who just filed chapter 7 b/c they have no income or money.
No one can tell you -- not even your therapist -- if your new friend is lying. You have to look for clues in the story to figure out if the story is true or false.
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I am actually the type to give people the maximum benefit of doubt. Even in the face of lies, I used to be in denial, making excuses for her, trying to talk myself out of distrust because I
want to believe that people are good.
But such wishful thinking does not always work.
My point is, I am
not the type to jump into negative conclusions about people. I only conclude that someone is lying when I cannot deny it any longer.
I have actually posted about this (probably before you came to PC), but she acted desperately saying she is financially struggling. Then I later found out that she is going on vacations. I also later found out she was omitting information about her other incomes.
This is why I am taking it slow with my new friend even though I believe her. And honestly, I feel guilty for taking it so slow because I see that she wants a close friendship sooner than I am ready. I feel like I'm letting her down, but I need to protect myself too.