Months ago, right after the final session with my ex T, I had posted on Quora (a site to ask anonymous questions where many have talked about therapy and attachment issues). At that time, as you guys probably know, I was very distraught and dealing with a lot of shock and grief. Looking back, I shouldn’t have phrased the question the way I did, saying “my therapists abandoned me.” However, I did ask how I could forgive myself, which I think illustrated my own guilt and responsibility I know I need to own up to. I didn’t look at the responses for awhile, in party because I had forgotten about it. I just came across the question I had posted after looking something else up on quora and the responses were very hard to read, some confirming my deepest fears about myself and my ex T - such as that I’m crazy and must’ve scared the @&$! out of her. I’m not fishing for affirmations from you guys that I’m none of these things, but I was just curious if that is how most therapists feel in such a situation? Because they might understand where the client is coming from, that they mean no harm, do they typically have more empathy for the client and feel less alarmed? I’m scared this wasn’t just a general public’s reaction (who didn’t know my situation or my T), but how most therapists would feel in the same situation. Some seemed pretty understanding/not shocked, but many showed very strong, negative opinions. I’m trying to hold onto my the way my T acted in our last session, crying and showing a lot of empathy, but this was extremely hard for me to read.

If people are so inclined to read it, here is a link:

My therapist abandoned me because I drove by her house. I went from seeing her 2x week to 0. How do I forgive myself? - Quora