So, another poster's thread inspired me to vent about my situation for any feedback (which is welcome).

If you are in financial straits, off-and-on, and take a vacation during that time, does that make you a liar about your situation?

Do I owe people an explanation for every decision I make with regards to how i spend the money I have access too?

For the last year of grad school (I'm in another grad program now) I ran out of money and was nearly evicted. But I reached out to friends and family and some people helped me out. I offered to repay them when I got my last financial aid refund check, and everyone declined my offer of repayment. So, i took myself on a vacation to visit some friends in another state and posted photos on FB about it.

I am curious if that makes me come across as a liar? Everyone knew I was a grad student, who only worked consistently 9 months of the year, and struggled to find work for summer months, b/c its in education.

I don't think I owed anyone an explanation of "how did you afford going on that vacation, Blanche, if you couldn't pay your rent?" I think it's about boundaries for me.

If someone offers me financial help, I don't feel like I owe it to them to explain why I'm spending money again b/c I'm back in black, and not in the red, anymore.

If I borrow money from a family member or friend, I ALWAYS pay them back esp. if they ask me to. Like, I was going to visit a cousin this month but car repairs ate up the savings I had for my trip. I had asked her to buy a concert ticket for me, for a concert we planned to see, and I Paypaled her my cost of the ticket price. So she got my money. When I didn't go through with the trip due to my car repairs, I apologized to her, and she claims she understands b/c she's in financial straits now too. I never asked her to give me back my concert ticket money, b/c that would be rude.

I'm just curious if anyone else has been in financial straits, and been judged as a liar by your family or friends for your financial decisions during that time.